“You look different today,” my beloved said to me once while we were having dinner. I smiled demurely and said, “Really, why do you think so?” And he answered, “Something with your hair. It makes you look sexy.”

This was the greatest compliment I have ever received since my mom praised me for taking my first baby steps. Well, maybe that’s an exaggeration, but you know what I mean. It feels good for your beloved to say that you look beautiful and sexy.

At that time, I was wearing this simple updo that I did myself. Basically, I made an updo without sleeking it with styling products so much, so it looks kind of messy and sassy. I let the ends stick out from the bun, while the rest of my hair was treated with some styling agents that added volume to it. I made sure that some tendrils framed my face, concealing some parts of my ear. Through this, I was able to show off my greater assets and conceal some of my less-than-nice features (I have often been teased about having big ears that rival those of Prince Charles’).

Creating your own updo is fun, and personally, I find it therapeutic. Having a new updo makes you look like an entirely different person, and it allows you to be an entirely different person as well. Try it some time.